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Grace for the Imperfect Mama – by Author and Blogger, Jenni Mullinix

I originally posted this at but felt it could help someone here, also.  Here goes!

I am the mother of a 26-year-old man.  He is an amazing person: Kind, generous, fun, funny, compassionate, polite, L O V E S  to fish – for fish and souls, he loves the L–d and serves Him well, defends the defenseless, & takes up for “the little guy”.  (He is 6 ft. 5 in. and 320 lbs.  I call him an oak tree on two trunks.  Oh, if only he had stayed with football!  He was  a sight on the soccer field, though!) He is just about everything a mother could hope that their child could be – he is a true Southern Gentleman, just a Good Ol’ Boy (aka ORIGINAL Redneck).  I have his teachers continually tell me what a great kid he was, even those that did not have him in class but just knew him from around school.  They all literally gush over him.  This always just makes my heart sing!  I am so proud of the man he has turned out to be.

This did not happen by accident.  I was not his friend.  We live in the South and I am his M O T H E R!  That means that I told him no, told him yes, told him maybe, told him “we’ll see”, kissed his boo boos, helped with homework, cheered at his ball games, volunteered in his public school classes and was a substitute teacher in his elementary and Junior high school. (I actually have 1,200 kids.  Just ask them!) We also disciplined him.  We took him to Church.  We love him.  I was everything I could be to and for him, as was his dad.  However, we saw to it he turned out well.  It was not an accident, and a friend can not raise a good adult.  No, you are not raising a child, you are raising up an adult and what you do today will determine how they turn out ten, twenty years down the road.

For those who have children that are having a hard time and you just want things to be easy for them?  Jared is allergic to pertussis vaccine and had a severe reaction.  He stopped breathing eight (yes, 8) times before we could get him to the hospital.  I was a nurse, so that helped.  Some.  He is a Near-Miss-SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) child.  He had to wear an apnea monitor when he was asleep.  And he had to wear it for five years.  The medical equipment company nor the insurance company had ever had anyone on one that long.  He was also the first baby that Memorial Hospital had in their sleep study lab.  It was rough, let me tell you.  On top of that, he had hypogammaglobulinemia.  He had no immune system.  Yep, just like the boy in the bubble.  This meant fevers of 105 -106 with just a cold, a 24 hour stomach bug that lasted a week, chicken pox   F O U R    T I M E S.  This went on for three and  a half years with the doctor telling me there was no way he would live.  Why did he live?  I had read my Bible and kept telling the dr., “I read the Book.  I have a good G_d and He will not do that to me.  My son will not die!”  Those in the “Faith circles” call this a confession.  For those that don’t believe in that, I was doing what Mark 11:22-24 tell us to do.  And it worked!

And did I mention that Jared had a learning disability?  It is called Grapho-Motor Deficit:  He had no feeling in the end of his fingers so it was very difficult for him to write.  He did not need to be pampered.  He needed Parents.  And he got them!  Yes, we modified his school work to decrease the writing, and he did have an I. E. P., but he still had to do his work.

Not only did Jared live, and not only did he graduate high school, but he did it with honors.  IN MATH!!!! He graduated with dual prep (classes necessary to go to community college and those necessary to go to a four-year university) and with numerous Geometry awards.  AND was in the top 9% of all graduating Georgia students in math on the states graduation test. This is a literal impossibility for someone with Grapho-Motor Deficit!  I love that word, “impossible”.  That is like a dare to G-d.  (Yep,  I have a huge smile on my face right now!)

Yeah, he turned out A O K!

And yet, even with all of this under my belt, as it were, until I read this  article I still would wonder, “Was I a  good  enough  mother?”  I made so many mistakes!   I know I did a lot, but could I have done more?  Was it enough?

This article nails it.  I follow Jenni at her blog Jenni Mullinax: Live Called For The Glory of G-d.  You might want to, also.

And to those that are totally overwhelmed?  YOU CAN DO THIS!!!  Read on.

Lisa Kay 


Originally posted on Jenni Mullinax:

What Less-Than-Perfect Moms Need Most

As a single woman and a newlywed, I had grand ideas of what motherhood would look like. My children were never going to watch television during the day. I was going to be cool, calm and collected in the midst of trying times. The house would stay clean. I would serve nutritious meals every night. And my children would never throw fits, especially in public. I was a perfect parent before becoming a mother.imperfect mamaFast forward a few years and you will find me as the mother of an infant and toddler sometimes wondering how I’m going to make it through this crazy, beautiful thing called motherhood. There are dark days caused by a lack of sleep, toddler tantrums and other stresses that bring me to the end of myself. During these difficult moments the question that all mothers wonder lurks in the back of my mind… Am I enough? …

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Thank You's

We Are The Land of The Free BECAUSE OF The Brave

Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

Notes for this amendment:
Proposed 9/25/1789
Ratified 12/15/1791*

Monday is Memorial Day, a single day set aside to do what we ought to do every day: remember those that fought and died so that we can stand for our religious beliefs without  government prohibiting the free exercise thereof.

To those that laid it all down in service to their country:


Thank You!

It doesn’t seem to matter to our current government, but We, the people thank you!

May we never forget.



*U.S. Constitution – Amendment 1

That is Just wrong

But We Voted!

  • Tuesday, Idaho U.S. Magistrate Judge Candy Dale ruled Idaho’s Marriage Amendment unconstitutional, overruling 63% of Idahoans who had voted in favor of man-woman marriage.
  • Late last Friday, Sixth Judicial Circuit Judge Chris Piazza overruled 75% of Arkansas voters who in 2004 ratified their state’s Marriage Amendment.
  • Yesterday, a three judge panel in Virginia’s U.S. Court of Appeals for the 4th Circuit heard arguments over a District Court Judge’s decision to overturn Virginia’s Marriage Amendment, ratified by 57% of voters in 2006. The effort was promoted by newly elected Attorney General Mark Herring (D).
  • Courts in Utah, Oklahoma, Kentucky, Texas, Michigan, and Ohio have also recently struck down marriage laws.
  • The ACLU and collaborators have targeted all states that hold to natural marriage.

via Family Research Council.

Think about what this country was like just ten years ago.  This would never have happened then.  I knew guys in the 70’s that used to regularly “roll queers” just because they were gay.  That was wrong.  It does show what people thought about them then. Now, this.

When  just 1.7 percent of Americans between 18 and 44 identify as gay or lesbian, while another 1.8 percent — predominantly women — identify as bisexual  and their supporters over rule what the other .

How about this!:

Miami Dolphins Fine, Suspend Player for Tweeting ‘OMG’ and ‘Horrible’ After Michael Sam Kisses Boyfriend on TV

Don Jones, a backup defensive back for Miami tweeted “omg” and “horrible.”He was “fined an undisclosed amount and barred from team activities until he completes sensitivity training.”

Miami coach Joe Philbin said on Sunday that he and the rest of the coaching staff “were disappointed to read Don’s tweets during the NFL Draft.”

“They were inappropriate and unacceptable, and we regret the negative impact these comments had on such an important weekend for the NFL. We met with Don [Sunday] about respect, discrimination and judgment. These comments are not consistent with the values and standards of our program. We will continue to emphasize and educate our players that these statements will not be tolerated,” he added. Original article can be found here: CP Entertainment

 “Inappropriate”?  “Unacceptable”?  How about “Honest reaction” or “How I really feel” or “This is the truth of the matter, no matter what gladd or the NFL try to force me to be, feel, or say”?

These illustrate what I am saying:








Above pictures via facebook

Land of the free ????

So, is this the national ideology they are dying for?  I don’t think so.

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Way To Go Gene Simmons!

I have never been a big Gene Simmons fan.  I like some of Kiss’s music, I just never cared for Gene Simmons personally.  

Until now.

February 19, 2013 Mr. Simmons did an interview with  Here is what impressed me so.

“Has polarizing football player Tim Tebow gotten a raw deal in the press because of his religious beliefs? And would he be treated more respectfully if he were not Christian, and specifically, Muslim? Gene Simmons thinks so.

“He’s got a religious passion, as well he should, we’re in America,” the KISS frontman told earlier this week. ”  He’s proud to be a Christian, what’s wrong with that? And yet, with sports media and pop culture media, they make fun of his religion. Really? In America? If he was wearing a burqa, they wouldn’t dare say anything [editor’s note: only Muslim women wear burqas]. But if you’re a Christian, you get to be picked on? What the hell? The guy’s got family values. I never saw the media picking on Michael Vick for torturing dogs. Or this other football player, who’s alleged to have killed, committed murder.  That’s ‘cool.’ But a guy who’s religious and has got family values isn’t ‘cool?’ He’s cool to me.”

“But the treatment that he feels Tebow has received makes him particularly incensed: “They’re a**holes. And they should be called to task, and they should lose their license, because in a very real way, as far as I’m concerned, it’s slander and defamation. You’re making fun of somebody’s religion.”

“I think religion is good for mankind. Without the Ten Commandments,” he pauses to note, “Jews gave you that,” and continues, “Without that, there’d be chaos. Somebody had to say, ‘Here are some good ideas: don’t steal, and don’t kill.’ Those are good ideas. That’s called ‘civilization.’ There was once a time where those things weren’t written down. You had chaos! We still have chaos, but there’s a reference point. But those are good ideas. Honor thy father and thy mother. That’s a good idea!”

Thank you for posting the transcript of Mr. Simmons interview.  And Mr. Gene Simmons, thank you for voicing what so many think and feel.  Forget being P. C.  After all, truth is truth. 

#Respect, Mr. Simmons.  #Respect!

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Why We Need Immigrant Workers

Because most people here will not do the work that they do:

The Washington Post: We’re running out of farm workers. Immigration reform won’t help.

The NY Times: Farmers strain to hire American workers in place of immigrant labor

CBS News: Few Americans take immigrants’ jobs 

Voice of America: US Farmers Depend on Illegal Immigrants

CNN Money: Farm workers: Take our jobs, please!

I live near many carpet mills.  There are also many recycling factories near by.  My husband was a machinist and went into these places to fix their breakdowns and saw the shops full of illegals.  Americans would fill these jobs, just not at the sub-min. pay the immigrants will work for.

HOWEVER,  I like fruits and veggies.  And but if no one already here will pick them…

So, what is the answer?  Easy!  If there is no other reason for them not to, let them work toward becoming citizens.  The children whose non-documented parents brought them here, they grew up here.  They went to school here.  Many of them serve in the U. S. military.  Why. On. Earth.  should they not become citizens.

A few more facts:

If a child is born on American soil, they are automatically an American Citizen with full rights and privileges.  It does not matter who or what their parents are, documented or non-documented immigrants, naturalized or born here citizens.  Many women struggle to get here to have their child for this reason.   The child then gets all kinds of financial aid and medical care.   There is big business in providing illegal immigrants with the birth.

The down side: My husband became unable to work  and I had to stay home with him, preventing me from working.  I later became disabled, but because I had not worked in so long am unable to get any medicare, Medicaid, or any thing else of this kind.  We are not eligible for any financial help of any kind.  He draws too much SS.

Yet undocumented immigrants get it because they had a child born on American soil.

This needs fixed.  It surely does, yet it does not negate our need for immigrant workers.  Also, think of the increased funds if they became tax (income) paying citizens!

This is an ongoing issue that would be so simple to fix if only politics were not involved.

But, alas, they are, so
Round and round and round we go.  

Seasons come and seasons go.  

The issues they will never change.

The problems come like falling rain.


Look to the left and to the right.

Nowhere is there hope in sight.

Yet in this tiny book I spy

The answer to my question, “Why?”


The whole book round this one fact stands

He took those nails in His feet and hands.

For me He did this, but for you too

Just His way to show, “I love you!”


And in return all He’ll require

Is let loving others be your desire

And  in Heavens Banks there’ll be

All we need, both you and me.


For all He’s done then and to come

In your life, is He #1?


If not, then He should be!


Is He #1?

A poem by Lisa Whitehead Ritchey

© Lisa Ritchey 2014